So That's Where I Get It From

April 1, 2011

March 30 – Women’s History Month – Fearless Females

March 30   –   Did you receive any advice or words of wisdom from your mother or another female ancestor?

There is nothing that comes to mind of particular words of wisdom or advice from my dear Mum or other female ancestors.  I’m sure over the years she has given advice on various things I have been involved with.  I asked Mum a few days ago if she has any words of wisdom in particular to make me aware of but she could not think of anything herself!  I asked her if she remembers any such words from her own mother but again, there was nothing that sticks in her mind.

I expect after I have done this series of topics, something will come to me that my Mum has particularly advised me about but it certainly seems like there is nothing family-wise that has been passed from one to another.


March 31, 2011

March 28 – Women’s History Month – Fearless Females

March 28   –   Do you remember your mother’s best friend? Your grandmother’s? How and where did they meet? How long were they friends? What activities did they share?

This is very easy to answer.  My dear Mum’s best friend is Marjorie (I won’t add her surname here to protect her privacy).  They have known each other since they were five years old and are now in their eighties.  To my brothers and I Marjorie is an auntie as she is part of the family, having been connected to it for so many years!  Mum and Marjorie met at school when Marjorie sat beside Mum and they have been great pals ever since.

As I have mentioned in other topics for this series, I really do not seem to know too much about my paternal grandmother.  Although I remember her vividly she died when I was about seven years old.  I don’t remember growing up hearing anything about her friends or much else.

My maternal grandmother’s best friend was Gladys.  Gladys is my Mum’s Godmother.   My Gran met Gladys when Gladys and her husband Bert were lodgers at my Grandparents home.  They had a lifelong friendship and sometimes went on holiday together.

March 26 – Women’s History Month – Fearless Females

March 26   –   What education did your mother receive? Your grandmothers? Great-grandmothers? Note any advanced degrees or special achievements.

I always remember my dear Mum being very proud that she won a Scholarship to attend a particular school when she was much younger.  The war came along and interfered with Mum’s education, especially as she was evacuated away from her home and family.  She won a Junior County Scholarship that allowed her entry into a very good school and her own mum found it hard to believe that her daughter did so well.

I have no idea about the education received by both my grandmothers or any of my great grandmothers.  I think this is something I need to look into, like school logs, as it might prove very interesting.

There is no family information passed down that has been specific about the education these female ancestors received and I have no knowledge of any degrees or special achievements attained by any of them.

March 25 – Women’s History Month – Fearless Females

March 25  –  Tell how a female ancestor interacted with her children. Was she loving or supportive? A disciplinarian? A bit of both?

I can’t answer this about my female ancestors further back from my grandparents.  I have not discovered anything in my research that would show whether any of my earlier female ancestors were disciplinarians, loving, or anything else.

My grandmothers always seemed loving to my brothers and I but we were their grandchildren and they could hand us back to our parents.  😉  My maternal grandmother always worried in particular about one of my Aunts, even when my Aunt reached the ripe old age of 70+ .  Gran was still worrying about if she would get lost while out at the shops!  This probably stemmed from the fact that my Aunt was deemed to be very fragile and delicate as a child, but Gran need not have worried, as my Aunt reached the milestone age of 100 years old last November!

My own dear Mum was always loving, fun, hardworking and both she and my dear Dad were strict with my brothers and I, but never so strict that we have resented it in any way.  Wherever we went as children people always commented on how well-behaved we were.  Although this is about our female ancestors and relatives, it was both Mum and Dad that taught us to respect, to care, to show courtesy, have good manners and so on.  We always had fun as a family and both Mum and Dad were always there when we needed them.

March 24 – Women’s History Month – Fearless Females

Once again I have gotten a little behind with this series.  I’m having a few problems with my internet connection.  It seems to be ok for a while then disappears altogether or it’s just so very slow – much slower than it used to be before we got broadband!!  I’m hoping it will hold out for a bit tonight so I can get the rest of this series done.  As it’s for March I shouldn’t be doing it in April!

March 24  –  Do you share any physical resemblance or personality trait with one of your female ancestors? Who? What is it?

Well my nose is that of my dear Dad’s and my ways are very like his were too but of course as this is about our female ancestors I can’t really discuss my likeness to my Dad!

My maternal grandmother Lucy Sinclair nee Dartnell (1883 – 1984) had a habit of rubbing her knee without really realising she was doing it.  My dear Mum also had the same habit which she obviously inherited from her mother and I too have this habit.  It is completely subconscious.  I do it without realising it and suddenly become aware that I am doing it.  So it has followed on from my dear Gran, to my dear Mum and to me.  Gran was a Dartnell and her mother was a Dickens. 

So who did Gran get this habit from?  I’ve yet to discover the answer to that.

March 28, 2011

March 22 – Women’s History Month – Fearless Females

March 22 – If a famous director wanted to make a movie about one of your female ancestors who would it be? What actress would you cast in the role and why?

To answer this topic I will say that if a film could be made about any of my female ancestors, then I would suggest my dear late Aunt Margaret (1916 – 1999) who I featured in the March 21 post of this series.

She was a career women and continued working until she was 80 years old.  Only a heart attack stopped her!!  She survived that but felt it was then time to retire.

All through my younger years I remember my Aunt was always travelling about in the world for her business but also for holidays where she would go mountain climbing, ski-ing, hiking and so on.  To me Aunt Margaret was a bit of an adventuress, so if a film was made about her, it would have to be action-packed!

Original photograph in my private collection - copyright 2011


The actress I would choose to play my Aunt Margaret would be Annette Crosbie.   She is more known these days as being the long-suffering wife of Victor Meldrew in One Foot In The Grave. 

The reason I would choose Annette is because whenever I have seen her over the years, she has always reminded me of my Aunt Margaret. 

Here is a pic of the actress Annette Crosbie taken from the internet from an article at:

Original photograph from website

I think this actress and my Aunt Margaret look very similar and so I think Annette would be perfectly cast.

March 21 – Women’s History Month – Fearless Females

I’ve not been able to add posts for this series (or for anything else) over the last few days as I have been having internet connection problems again!!  Hopefully things are improved now and so, fingers crossed, I can catch up with this series.

March 21 – Describe a tender moment one of your female ancestors shared with you or another family member.

I find it difficult to answer this because there have been many tender moments over the years between me and my family members, so it’s hard to know which “moment” to pick!

I was going through some old photos and came across the one I shall show here of my dear late Aunt Margaret Sinclair (1916 – 1999) with her younger sister Jean (my dear Mum).  I felt it shows a tender moment between two sisters.

Original photograph in my private collection - copyright 2011


I think this shows both tenderness and protection as my Aunt Margaret has a steadying hand around my Mum and it also shows a wonderful closeness between them.

March 18, 2011

March 18 – Women’s History Month – Fearless Females

March 18   –   Shining star: Did you have a female ancestor who had a special talent? Artist, singer, actress, athlete, seamstress, or other? Describe.

As with the March 17 topic, this is another one that is difficult to answer regarding my female ancestors!

My maternal grandmother Lucy Sinclair (nee Dartnell) (1883 – 1984; yes 101 years old) used to be a Court Dressmaker (I have written about this in the Daily Blogging Theme, Mystery Monday) and used to make clothes for herself and her children and it would not surprise me if she made clothes for her friends as well.  She also knitted many items as well.

Her daughter, my (now 100 years old) Aunt Lucy has been an artist for most of her life.  She paints beautiful  landscapes, seascapes, still life, portraits, all sorts and in all sorts of different ways with charcoal, acrylic, pastels and so on and is still painting and exhibiting at this milestone age!!

Here is a photograph of my Aunt with one of her paintings, taken from a newspaper article about her in November 2010 for her 100th birthday.  The quality of the pic is not too good and as it is from a newspaper the print from the other side can be seen through it!!

Photograph from a newspaper item Nov 2010 - copyright 2011


We have a famous author ancestor but he is male!  So I cannot write about him here as this is about our female ancestors.

In my family history research I haven’t yet come across any females who are “Shining Stars” although I think in the 1700s and 1800s many of my female ancestors were probably very accomplished seamstresses.  If they were financially comfortable then they probably spent a lot of their days sewing embroidered tapestries but if they were poorer, then they probably made their own dresses or were lacemakers.

So, again, I’m sorry to say that I cannot write too much about my female ancestors as I have not come across anything they have done that I could include in this post.

March 17 – Women’s History Month – Fearless Females

March 17   –   Social Butterfly? What social organizations or groups did your mother or grandmother belong to? Sewing circle, church group, fraternal benefit society or lodge? Describe her role in the group.

I can’t really say too much about this topic as neither my mother or grandmothers appear to have been members of any social organisations as such!

My mother told me that her mother, Lucy Sinclair (nee Dartnell) used to go to events and social evenings at the British Legion in Balham, London but she wasn’t a member of the Legion.

I’ve been going through some of my female ancestors and the females in my partner Paul’s family but there doesn’t seem to be anyone that was involved with groups or social organisations.

I’m sure that some of my female ancestors would have been in church groups or even Women’s Institute groups but as yet I just haven’t found anything like that for any of my female ancestors.  Perhaps I need to start searching some different kinds of records to delve into this a bit further?

This theme is certainly making me aware that I need to look more into the lives of my female ancestors than I have been doing!

March 16, 2011

Wordless Wednesday: Holidays in Whitstable

This is a photo that I came across last week and just thought it would be good for Wordless Wednesday!  It is a bit faded but was taken circa 1960 and is of my maternal grandmother Lucy Sinclair (nee Dartnell), myself and my brother John at Whitstable, Kent where our grandmother always took us for a holiday. My brother Alan took the picture.

Original photograph in my Mother's private collection - copyright 2011


We always enjoyed our holidays in Whitstable and I have some very happy memories from those times.

Older Posts »

Blog at